Maybe they are down on their luck and wanting some encouragement or an ego stroke.Īs you guessed, this lasts until they feel better or find someone who comforts them better (because they will be looking). Maybe your ex needs comfort from a tragedy in their life. This is a temporary reason for coming back and it will likely only be until they can find a “better” replacement.īecause being with you is better than being lonely – until it isn’t.Īnd, like many of the other reasons, when they find a replacement, they will leave again. The problem is when they don’t like the person who is their girlfriend or boyfriend. Some people really like having a girlfriend or boyfriend. No one can stay in an unfulfilling situation forever – and they won’t. Some people hate to fail and pride themselves on finishing what they started. Wanting to stick it out (commitment without desire/passion): It’s temporary and they will resent you for it even if you didn’t try to use it to manipulate them into coming back to you.ħ. Occasionally an ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend will come back because they just take a leap of faith that the problems that pushed them away will simply go away.īut if and when the same problems pop up again, it’s adios. Thinking the problems will fix themselves: If that’s the only reason your ex comes back, it won’t be long at all before you are dumped again for someone who provides more of what your ex needs outside of the bedroom as well.ĥ. If the two of you were having sex and now, after the breakup, your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend has no one for that, your ex might come back to you to fulfill that need. It’s not a problem until you aren’t getting any. You’ll wish you had listened to me when they are afraid you will try to manipulate them again with guilt and will reject any and all efforts on your part to meet or communicate. The guilt will almost certainly not work to get them back again and you will be even further away from them than at the first breakup. They will feel strength and resolve against you. When the guilt has worn off, and it will quickly, they will feel even less attraction and love for you than when they initially broke up with you! It’s not really taking you back and fits the “Mirage Reunion” perfectly. In the rare event they do take you back because they feel guilty, it will be temporary and only to appease their guilt. Guilt is not love and making your ex feel guilty is not the same as restoring attraction. If you did that, they might come back to you because they are trying to ease the guilt they feel. If you handled the breakup poorly by trying to talk your ex into getting back together, you likely tried to make them feel guilty about how they hurt you by breaking up with you. Or if they have low self-confidence or have had bad luck with past romantic partners. If your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend lives in a small town or simply doesn’t have a large social circle, they might figure that you are the best or only option.
The dating world can be difficult, creepy, and frustrating. Get your ex back with Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit!